Dining: Alinea in Chicago

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It is not just dining; it’s an experience. It is not just tasting, but engaging all your senses. Participating is not what you expect, utensils and applications are not typical. This is not one plate, fork and knife comfort food. This is multiple tiny surprises that culminate into anticipated pleasure. There is no monotony; there is anxiousness and excitement. The end result is like leaving a play of many acts or a gallery of gorgeous paintings, thus resulting in an appreciation for art and a new pleasure found. The added benefit is not being hungry. The more expensive a meal is, the more hands have touched every component of the plate. There is so much attention to detail and delicate … Read More

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Strange Encounters

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Let me preface this account by illustrating how sweet and joyous my mother is. She is the epitome of a ‘never met a stranger’ type. Here’s an example: She just shared with me a curious encounter she had with a young black boy in a Walgreen’s drugstore. As she was shopping around, she noticed this young wiry kid (under 15yrs old) loitering between the aisles killing time waiting on whomever he was with that happened to be at the pharmacy. Fairly quickly, he approached her and struck up immediate conversation ‘What are you shopping for? can i help you find anything..?’ Soon the conversation turned to his age and school and difficulties in getting into the high school he wanted … Read More

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Who Are You?

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When we meet someone for the first time, we immediately ask what they do for a living. We have been conditioned to do so. Since we spend the majority of our hours in a day doing work, it makes perfect sense. Rarely what we do describes a large chunk of our character though, or even an insight into our personality traits. Sometimes it might, like if a person works for a non-profit replacing female vets into the workforce; we may presume this person has a good character. But other times, even if what we are doing is something we are really passionate about, it is only one layer of our self. On social networks, we can express only what we … Read More

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Jealousy

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I have always believed jealousy to be lack of confidence. It is either lack of confidence in the relationship or lack of confidence in the direction of our own life. We need confirmation from our romantic partner in order to feel secure about where we stand with them. When being jealous of other’s lives, their success or their objects, we are feeling insecure about our own direction and/or uncertain that it will lead us to our own success; or simply unsatisfied with where we are. Thank goodness I have never been bugged with the ‘jealousy’ characteristic. In a relationship, my thought has been, if the person I’m dating simultaneously wants someone else, they need to go on and not waste … Read More

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To Feel and To Know…

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Love is a verb. It is the behavior in the relationship. Love is the sacrifice and the compromise. Lust and infatuation are the emotions from the chemicals at the beginning of the dating process. I don’t mean to sound so unromantic about the process, but I do mean to express maturity about what it takes to sustain a relationship. And any adult that has experienced a longterm relationship understands this reality. In truth, we would all like for the ‘lusting after’ and being in love part to run the entire course of the relationship too. Why do we pursue dating without the promise or guarantee of love? Because we are selfish. This is the truth. The act of courting is … Read More

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