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I’ve started singing again. I want to make note of this. It’s been awhile. There has been a terribly long dry spell. I would like to blame it on my podcasts listening verses music listening. I’ve entirely changed my environment. My current environment doesn’t seem to breed it.  A lot has changed in the past year. I neither hear myself in sounds of soliloquy casually around my home, nor in the shower, nor freely belting in the car; and I have definitely not creatively puzzled together lyrics for a new song.

I’ve wondered if the whole singing thing blew in like a breeze and left as quickly as shutting the window pane. {typing this line kinda breaks my heart, so I guess I know how I feel about it}

I note this because it’s an obvious change from months of not doing so, of not doing so for so long. So much has changed.

Having foundations is paramount. Knowing thyself. Setting up a routine to manifest what we want…

Having routines and plans and being disciplined and decisive means having less decisions to make. Steve Jobs and the black turtleneck. No wardrobe decisions. When set responsibilities become involuntary like visiting the family on Sundays or auto-drafting bills out of a checking account, we know how much free time in our day is left or money we have to play with.

When you have a healthy meal plan and you purchase and prep groceries for this, it’s almost impossible to eat unhealthily or veer off course. Building foundations both physically and metaphorically is how we become better humans. All parents rearing children (new humans) know they need boundaries.

I have been admonished over the years for being so ‘hard on yourself’ and I have never been able to defend myself properly. I just read this weekend post and wanted to scream ‘YES!’ Here is my defense.

Wise People Have Rules For Themselves

It seems well-meaning in most cases—people sometimes do go overboard with exercise, frugality, and personal efficiency. But I think it’s much more common for people to go under-board in some or all of those areas, and you can bet the person giving you a hard time is one of them.

We often hear about the importance of “balance” in our self-improvement efforts. But what exactly are we balancing? Good behaviors and bad ones? Are we looking for lives that are equal parts wisdom and recklessness?

Can you imagine someone saying “I don’t think we should force ourselves to brush our teeth every day. You have to live a little!”

You might have noticed a pattern in the most successful people around you. Wherever they excel, they tend to have personal rules that they take very seriously.

 [David at raptitude.com is a fabulous blog to follow]

This past weekend was really great. It was equal parts productive and relaxing, which is my favorite. Every weekend I strive for this balance. This being said, my usual Sunday routine happened to be a whirlwind of no order yet enlightening. I made some holistic breakthroughs that a seated psychiatrist would’ve charged a couple hundred for. I obviously didn’t get my intentional Sunday evening post up yesterday and it has pained me, yet predicated this post. I’m here. I want to be. I want my writing to be an involuntary need. A breath and an exhale. I want to be so disciplined here.

And then today, Mark Manson posted a short poignant What’s the Point of Self-Improvement Anyway?

I like his casual parlance and agree with his general disdain. As a book junkie I will say, I loathe self-improvement books and the closest I have to one is by Tony Robbins on money. Called Money

Having disciplined foundations, solidifying schedules like church going on a Sunday morning…this creates our principals. Principals are what make us better humans, not just wisdom. I’ll frankly say, it is about finding balance and not being an asshole about individual convictions. Everyone is figuring it out for themselves.


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