One of the least selfish things a person can do is have a child. Raising a child is the most self-less experience we go through. Every decision, from the day the baby is born, is no longer about the parents interest but that of nurturing the baby. (pre-supposing a mature parent, not a knocked-up immature teenager) We live in a society now that gives woman both the time and opportunity to have both a career and a child, or have a child and still participate in all the extra-curricular fun, hobbies or passions she chooses.
In one of my youthful vain attempts at ‘finding myself’, I set out for Europe again. I was alone, I was on a certain kind of mission. Honestly, I needed a break from the standards I was already beginning to ridiculously impose on myself. I wanted to rebel against the person in my head. I decided to go to Italy and eat a lot of dairy products. Yes, this is comical to admit. There was more to the venture than this, but in a way it precipitated the entire trip. I hadn’t eaten any dairy in a couple years. I had been to Florence and most of the south already, so I started in Venice. I stayed at a nunnery. … Read More
When Sir Winston Churchill gave his famous speech warning the Brits of the potential disaster to come from Hitler, he was quoted as saying ‘I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, tears and sweat.’ We hear the term ‘blood, sweat and tears’ and know immediately the reference to hard work and effort during difficult circumstances. One has exhausted themselves to the brink. It is very fitting to the military because they are in a constant state of fight or flight with their bodies and sensory alertness with their minds. I am especially grateful to not know the true definition of hard work. I know ‘working hard’. I know hustling and being busy with accomplishing a task or achieving a goal. And yes, … Read More
It does not matter who you are, where you are, what you do, or what you are trying to do, the fact is, there will always be someone better off and someone worse off. The truth is, we may have standards for other people but we give ourselves even bigger ones. When we don’t meet our own criteria, we feel deflated or beat ourselves up inside; and when other people fall short we are often too quick to cut them off. First impressions are involuntary, but making the effort to learn more about the situation or a person, more often than not, we find it worth the while. People are more tender than they project. In the same vein, we … Read More
Depression is the opposite of Expression. The #1 form of expression is doing something for someone else. Get out of your own head and lend a hand. Giving a hand will heal your heart. This will at least take attention away from what is being spent on exhaustive thoughts. We can not make beneficial choices and decisions when our faculties are fatigued. Negativity is both physically and mentally depleting. Again, re-charge the self by thinking about or helping out another person. This removes one from their head and elevates the mood for better decision making.