There’s a lot of it going around. -where we feel duty bound or responsible, the weight of it feels heavy. I’ve come to understand much of it is self-imposed. It sounds harsh to know no one owes you a damn thing until the reciprocal is also understood you don’t owe anyone a thing either. Very few people need explanations, very few family members need excuses, very few friends need a reason… We are there because we want to be, here for each other. We want to do things and give because we want to, not because it is asked or expected. Of course there are obligations, but a lot of these we’ve chosen for ourselves too. Assigned ourselves the tasks. I … Read More
Very deceptive. A favorite newsletter of mine comes in the form of The School of Life. I’ve been a fan for years; absolutely prescient for its proponents of emotional intelligence. We currently live amongst heightened tech, A.I., coding, data mining, software writing, social media, internet dating, sex robots, robots, robots, robots, etc… and the future only encourages this life. The irony of course, so many people are currently responding to all stimuli in life with only emotion. In these cases, predominantly, they are intellectually immature (e.g. college protestors with signs and shouts against free speech) Be forewarned of these types. Job interviewers immediately respond via first impressions, the body mechanics, then the emotional intelligence, then business aptitude -whether they know … Read More
It has rained non stop for over a week. I can’t imagine living in most parts of the UK where this is normal. Seasonal affective disorder is no joke! Today I have walked miles, swept, raked, replanted succulents, etc…essentially tried to o.d. on vitamin D. Just a few more weeks till spring. Thankfully there is Champagne. Really, the only significant change I wanted to make in this new year was drinking more champagne; and thus far I have been very consistent. Very very. On the outset I sought out extra brut for its minimal amount of sugar. I find a glass, with its delightful carbonation, very refreshing and enjoyable after work. Champagne sweetness scale: from brut to doux It’s really … Read More
This upcoming week is about the ego. Internalizing and reflecting. We are showman and we are questioning what we show. I’ve been on a purge: deleting history, deleting accounts, minimizing my presence…all deliberately. Is this an opportunity to wipe the slate clean and harness a specificity? Even if it is isn’t so deliberate, now is the time. Don’t question it. Deep breaths. Leave or walk away when you need to. Ever since I was little I had a certain anxiety about making decisions. I ran circles around my thoughts like a triathlete. Quickly I learned the benefits of process of elimination. There is so much; there is always so much; especially now. The much is always growing. Leave behind or … Read More
After speaking of dormancy in last week’s post, I didn’t know I’d portend my own fate. I’ve been so ill and mostly in bed, going on 6 days. I did get out yesterday to see a movie, Darkest Hour, about Winston Churchill’s first days as Prime Minister. Really enjoyed it. Worth reading: What’s Fact, What’s Fiction in Darkest Hour? I then went out to dinner, which was probably pushing it. I slept awfully, woke to no voice, and feel worse for having tried to participate with the living. Unfortunately, I have to return to work tomorrow.