Who Are You?

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When we meet someone for the first time, we immediately ask what they do for a living. We have been conditioned to do so. Since we spend the majority of our hours in a day doing work, it makes perfect sense. Rarely what we do describes a large chunk of our character though, or even an insight into our personality traits. Sometimes it might, like if a person works for a non-profit replacing female vets into the workforce; we may presume this person has a good character. But other times, even if what we are doing is something we are really passionate about, it is only one layer of our self. On social networks, we can express only what we … Read More

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Jealousy

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I have always believed jealousy to be lack of confidence. It is either lack of confidence in the relationship or lack of confidence in the direction of our own life. We need confirmation from our romantic partner in order to feel secure about where we stand with them. When being jealous of other’s lives, their success or their objects, we are feeling insecure about our own direction and/or uncertain that it will lead us to our own success; or simply unsatisfied with where we are. Thank goodness I have never been bugged with the ‘jealousy’ characteristic. In a relationship, my thought has been, if the person I’m dating simultaneously wants someone else, they need to go on and not waste … Read More

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To Feel and To Know…

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Love is a verb. It is the behavior in the relationship. Love is the sacrifice and the compromise. Lust and infatuation are the emotions from the chemicals at the beginning of the dating process. I don’t mean to sound so unromantic about the process, but I do mean to express maturity about what it takes to sustain a relationship. And any adult that has experienced a longterm relationship understands this reality. In truth, we would all like for the ‘lusting after’ and being in love part to run the entire course of the relationship too. Why do we pursue dating without the promise or guarantee of love? Because we are selfish. This is the truth. The act of courting is … Read More

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Friends

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I am finding that as an adult it is more difficult to make new friends. There is so much going on in all our lives, and social media means we can connect without having to physically change our schedule and present our bodies in person. Heck, maintaining the tried and true ones from grade school are difficult due to the varying paths we go down. Rarely do they merge. Making the effort to keep in touch and hopefully ‘pick up where we left off’ is all I hope to gain generally. Being at the tail-end of the holidays has me reflecting on this. I often hear my fave talk radio guy Dennis Prager say how ‘Friends are the people you … Read More

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Meeting in the Middle

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Life is often about doing things we don’t want to do. I do not always want to load the dishwasher or fold laundry, but the underlying desire for a clean kitchen and unwrinkled clothing overrides. When people speak of doing what one is passionate about, not only does it imply they don’t loathe their job, but more often than not, they are getting to live in the place where the desires are in line with the obligations; being excited and enthusiastic about doing the ‘chores’ to reach the goal. Really, when we aren’t interested, it is dreadful. This is great in respect to jobs and vocations/hobbies. But what about relationships? These too, take time, effort, patience, conversations and a myriad … Read More

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